What Actually Is A Soulmate?

The conception of what a soulmate consists of can only be an idea of what that term means, in our lives. It varies from individual to individual, yet the most common understanding of the word is found in the phrase, “our one and only.”

The inner search to find a deeper understanding of ourselves and what we truly desire in a relationship should be our focus, in instead of searching for the elusive “perfect” person. This will help attract a soulmate to us. Yes, this person may be your “one and only” for an entire lifetime, or maybe for as little as a month or two. Spiritually, it doesn’t matter how long the relationship lasts, as long as the “contract” is fulfilled and the two spirits are able to learn their lessons from the relationship. The term “contract” is used because it is the perspective of many people that a soulmate is someone with whom we have a spiritual contract. This is an agreement to help each other to heal, grow and evolve, regardless of its being a positive or negative relationship.

When you are able to look into another’s eyes and express love openly and freely, you have found a love that will be healing, empowering, and delightfully fun. As you grow, you may find that this relationship no longer fulfills your needs. Perhaps your contract has been fulfilled, and it is time to move on.

Some soulmate relationships may last forever, but not in the sense of only having a “one and only” in the current life. For, it is true that you will always know that person on a soul level, and you may meet at other times in different incarnations through a desire to see each other again or to do work together. If a relationship ends that you did not want to end, understand that the other person has other people to meet and things to do for his or her personal evolution. It is important to allow the person time and space to grow, and to release them with as much forgiveness as possible, knowing that you will meet again. Trust in the Universe, and look for the positive in any painful situation. Perhaps another soulmate would love to spend time with you!

The term “soulmate” can mean many things.  Soulmates are souls that you have had experiences with in the past. They can also be aspects of your own soul, experiencing life at this time in another body. For, we are all multidimentional beings having experiences in many realities at the same time.

In this respect, as we evolve from the same source of consciousness creation, we could say that we are all soulmates. Soulmates can have various types of relationships, and these do not always include romantic love. In considering why we might be with another person, it is important to see with a broader perspective that souls can come together to work out issues, and can play diverse roles for us to do this. Thus, anyone who is in your biological family, adopted family, or pseudo-family can be your soulmate.

Why do some of us have a deep urge to find a soulmate? We all share a deep, primal inner longing for a sense of perfect union that has taken the label “soulmate union,” according to an article at http://www.soulmaterelationship.com. Yet, you feel closer to certain souls because you have attracted them into your life, sharing the same frequency, or perhaps because of the need to work out issues with them. In this respect, the driving “romantic urge” can be explained from many different perspectives.

In terms of the romantic urge itself, physical scientists attribute it to biochemistry and hormones. Anthropologists explain it by examining cultural myths, pro-creative instincts and mating behavior. Psychologists attribute it to deep-seated issues from childhood and our desire for reunion with our mothers, or first and “perfect” loves. None of these are exclusive, or necessarily contradictory, theories. As with all experiences in the physical, beneath them lies a spiritual root or reality from which these manifestations of desire arise.

Desire makes the world go around. It is desire that fuels all of life, and all of creation. It leads to procreation, new life, ambition, creativity and every kind of union. It is the desire for union, or for the divine sense of “Oneness,” that inspires our fantasies for a soulmate experience. If what we truly seek in our desire for a soulmate is unlimited and unconditional, romantic love falls short of that ideal. We do, at core, long for the unconditional love that most of us could only feel from our mothers. This experience of unconditional love from our mothers closely resembles the sense of peace and wholeness that can only truly be found in God, or the divine. Romance, by its nature, is not unconditional or unlimited.