Have empathy and compassion but not at the risk of sacrificing yourself.
Don’t take it personal. It’s really not about you. And sometimes there’s nothing you can fix….but we can chose our friends.
HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE.
When the negative person is a family remember that you have choice in the way you respond—- respond in love. Stop being angry, end your resentment. Put love in your heart. We can’t change people… But we can pray for them.
WHEN DEALING WITH UNHAPPY FAMILY MEMBERS, KNOW YOUR PART, BUT SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.
Be supportive without taking responsibility for the self-worth of another. Create a healthier relationship. And if you want this person in your life, (or if you really don’t have a choice via marriage or bloodline ) then make a decision to do your best without sacrificing your soul.
ASK QUESTIONS. LISTEN.
And listening doesn’t mean letting the other person talk, so that they will hurry up and finish so you can say what you need to say. Listening is understanding; trying to see things from their life perspective. Having an understanding of what it is like to walk in their shoes and what experiences have led them to this way of thinking. Take the word confrontation out of your vocabulary. Decide to be more loving.
AND LASTLY, I BELIEVE THAT NO RELATIONSHIP IS 50/50.
Every relationship has a humble hero. It’s okay to be that person from time to time who does more and takes pride in their role. Be the person who’s willing to make the other person feel like the center of the universe. Instead of keeping score or building resentment, just hold that pride inside of you.
Know without having to broadcast it or write your award acceptance speech that this is ***your gift*** This is what draws other people to you. Stop feeling sorry for yourself or wondering when someone else is going to do the same for you. Respond in love or make a decision to make a change.
There are exceptions to every rule – but the thing I know for sure and it sounds “total cheeseburger” but love is almost always the right answer.