We think, Oh, if I only had someone who loved me, my life would be so much better. That’s not the way it works. To read the full article go to LouiseHay
When you’re needy for love, it means that you’re missing love and approval from the most important person you know — yourself. You may become involved in relationships that are codependent and ineffectual for both partners.
You can never create love in your life by talking or thinking about being lonely. Feeling lonely and needy just pushes people away.
Nor can you heal a relationship in your life by talking or thinking about how awful it is. This only places attention on what’s wrong.
You want to turn your thoughts away from the problem and create new thoughts that will produce a solution.
Arguing for your limitations is just resistance, and resistance is simply a delay tactic. It’s another way of saying, “I’m not good enough to have what I’m asking for.”
Remember, when you think joyous thoughts, you’ll be a happy person, everyone will want to be with you, and all of your current relationships will improve. Say these positive quotes to yourself daily to cultivate more love in your life with yourself. Watch as the love you have for yourself grows, attracting more and more love to you.
When you’re happy with yourself, then all of your other relationships improve, too. A happy person is very attractive to others.
Therefore, the first relationship to improve is the one you have with yourself. If you’re looking for more love, then you need to love yourself more. This means no criticism, no complaining, no blaming, no whining, and no choosing to feel lonely. It means being very content with yourself in the present moment and choosing to think thoughts that make you feel good now.