17 Oct2018
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Truths About A Relationship
17 Oct 2018Hard Truths About A Relationship
It’s easy to believe that your relationship is different from everyone else’s. It’s probably not. Relationships take effort to maintain, and you won’t always be happy with your partner.
Even if you love each other, if you have fundamentally different values, a breakup may be the best option. Everyone knows relationships are hard, and take effort to maintain, and sometimes disappoint you. Except, of course, your relationship. That’s different. Or so everyone likes to believe.
Below, we’ve listed some of the truest but hardest-to-accept insights about modern romance. If you can get past these somewhat unsettling ideas, you’ll be more likely to have a happy and fulfilling partnership.
We’re often attracted to people who will later drive us crazy. While researching habits and personality for her book “The Four Tendencies,” Gretchen Rubin noticed a curious phenomenon. People she’d labeled “rebels” often paired up romantically with people she’d labelled “obligers.”
Rebels resist both inner and outer expectations; if you ask a rebel to do something, they’ll likely resist. Obligers meet outer expectations but don’t always meet inner ones; they usually need some form of external accountability.
Rubin told Business Insider:
“If you’re an upholder, you live life according to a schedule. [For example] you never miss your daily run, and you always eat fewer than 30 grams of carbs a day, and you always go to bed by 11. It could be exciting be swept off your feet by somebody who feels very free and not confined.”
But over time, the novelty may wear off and these two different approaches can come into conflict. To be sure, rebels and obligers — and any two types of people — can be happy together. But it’s worth keeping this pattern in mind.
Hard Truths:
There’s probably no such thing as ‘the one’
You may be less likely to break up with your partner if you have a pet or a joint bank account
Poor timing can be a reason to break up — even if you love each other
Passion may wax and wane in your relationship
It can be hard to make a relationship work if you and your partner have different values
Sometimes you will be miserable in your relationship
Most people have unrealistic expectations for their relationship
You and your partner may not always be compatible
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