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23 Dec2020

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Looking after your Relationship at Christmas: 10 tips for Managing the Flashpoints

23 Dec 2020
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Here are 10 top tips from an experienced therapist and mediator to help you win through the Christmas crises. Learn to be your own couple-therapist!

Don’t row in front of the children. They find it unsettling and frightening even if they don’t show it.
There is no point in arguing anyway. Arguing means that people turn up their personal volume and shout their views and opinions and criticisms; nothing ever moves on or gets resolved. Debate by all means, talk from your own perspective, say how you feel (but not how he or she ‘makes‘ you feel). When people in high stress shout back louder, this often makes the other person deafer. The only thing you’ll achieve is a sore throat! Can you visualise taking off your own shoes and stepping into your partner’s? How do things look from their standpoint?

Avoid blame; be a grown-up. Blame is about not taking personal responsibility. Man up….

Remember you are a player in this story. You are co-creating the dynamic. Stop and ask yourself what your part is in the argument.

You cannot both be right but you both can have a point. Be generous and concede if your partner has a point.

Relationships function on goodwill and give and take. Avoid putting workload sharing under your personal microscope. If you feel resentful that your other half is not pulling her weight then discuss, give ideas, ask how you can support her, don’t argue.

Be a role model for your children; they are learning all the time from you and your behaviour. What sort of grown-ups do you hope they will be?

Remember what brought you together into this relationship. Hold onto it, discuss it and nurture it in rough times.

Even if your mother-in-law is staying, never criticize a person’s mother to them, you’ll never win!
Have a peaceful Christmas!

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