Strengthen Your Relationships

Whether you’ve got two friends or 20, you probably care about nurturing your friendships. After all, friends bring more laughter and joy to our lives and provide emotional support during tough times.

But sometimes other stuff gets in the way. We have crazy deadlines at work. If we have partners or kids, they might demand most of our free time. And occasionally, we might forget a birthday or realise it’s been months since our last catch-up.

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So… what can you do to strengthen your friendships?

Walk in Their Shoes

It’s easy to get impatient with Judy, who’s always running “just 10 minutes late” or Brian, the university buddy who always seems like he’s trying to upstage you. But here’s where empathy comes in: Take a few minutes to consider what it’s really like to be your friend. What unique challenges might they face? Research shows that practicing perspective-taking builds empathy, which can improve our relationships and make us more compassionate and understanding—a quality every good friend should have.

Savor Good Memories

Even if you haven’t seen a particular pal in awhile, sometimes all it takes to strengthen the bond is a reminder of past good times. Go through photos from a memorable event or vacation you enjoyed together—savor the details and point out memorable moments and funny details from the occasion. Scientists say that this type of shared savoring, called “capitalization,” improves our well-being, and helps foster positive social interactions by bringing us closer. Even if you can’t see your friend in person, you can still send them a “Remember when?” link to your photos from the event, pointing out the best moments from the day.

Celebrate Their Good News

Did Frank get a new job last month? Did Michelle have a new baby three months ago whom you still haven’t seen in person? Sure, you sent a card or email to congratulate them, but you can do even more! Meet up with a friend who recently had good news that you haven’t celebrated properly. When you see them, practice what scientists call “active constructive feedback”—show enthusiasm, ask them about all the little details, and get them to relive the moment with you. Research by Shelly Gable shows that when we respond to other people’s good news positively, they feel more understood, validated and cared for, which enhances the quality of your relationship and makes you—both of you—happier.